5 year Wedding Anniversary

July 16th was our 5th wedding anniversary!

Here are some pictures from July 16, 2005

The Kunce Family

Kim, Bill, Christi, Thomas, Susan, Jason

haha...love this one. My dad had a lot of cash on hand to pay people. He thought it would also make a good photo prop! haha, he was funny like that.

My Grandmother and my Mom

I feel like those were quite random pictures. There are no pictures from ceremony I really like, or the reception. There are a lot of little things I didn't like about our wedding. Ok, that sounds bad. Let me try to explain. There are many material, nitpicky little things I look back and wish were different. My dress, bride’s maids dresses, photographer..I might have liked Thomas in a different suit, why did I hold my flowers right in front of my dress like that, why didn't anybody tell me they were covering my dress?, maybe I should have worn my hair down, should we have had a videographer?
I think since we had a relatively short engagement we planned our wedding really quick. I didn't really care about things, you know the stuff and fluff...I cared about marrying my love. Even now after fussing about things I didn't like, or wish were different I know it doesn't matter. The stuff doesn't matter. It matters that we went in front of our family, friends and God and proclaimed our love and commitment to one another. We proclaimed that we wanted to be united as one in Christ.
I think you'll agree that now a days there is so much emphasis on fancy weddings. Media, celebrities and television shows display uber fancy, perfect weddings. It's upsetting to know that sometimes our focus is more on the stuff and fluff than on the meaning of the ceremony. But don't get me wrong, you can have a fancy, over the top wedding and still have the couple that really wants that union. I've been to some that are just like that and I know the couple is deeply in love with each other and wanted to be married together with Christ.
I recently went back to the florist I used for our wedding (which by the way I have no complaints about, haha). I was getting an arrangement for a friend. I mentioned to the florist that I used her for my wedding five years ago. She said, "Oh, how are you doing?" I replied, "Well, we're still together." we both chuckled. She went on to explain that she can tell which marriages will last and which ones won't. She said the brides that seem too focused on the details and stuff of the wedding don’t make it. We chatted more. I threw in my thoughts. I think that there is so much build up to the wedding ceremony. We have so much fun planning and making our dream wedding a reality. But when we wake up the next day our worlds are so different. Now what? We’re married? What do we do? Well you have to work now, you have to work to make it work! Seems like our generation doesn’t want to work for a good marriage. I know generations of the past had troubles too. But I think we’re losing site of what a marriage is supposed to look like.
So in conclusion…I don’t know. I just wanted to ramble. But seriously, I love Thomas more every day. Every day is not easy in a marriage. I want to work to make my marriage work. Seeing him as a father is amazing. I will cherish this stage of life and I look forward to the next.