Is it normal to want another baby so soon after having one?! Is it because I am surrounded by babies and pregnant ladies. Even without Facebook and the blogworld I would still feel surrounded. And for the most part the preggos share the good news and the joys of being pregnant. When I was pregnant I wondered how much of the negatives I'd remember. [Side note: (or middle of paragraph note) Pregnancy as a whole is truly a wonderful blessing. Don't get me wrong. But lets not be naive, there are some not so fun things about being pregnant. And I want to be sensitive to those that would read something like this and think "how could you say that" because they'd give anything to be pregnant. Anyone that is pregnant does take joy in the experience. Its just that everyone's story is their own. You know? It's all relative. Seems as though we all like to throw ourselves a pity party every once in a while. Which we shouldn't. But being the imperfect children of God that we are, we go ahead and complain about such a wonderful gift. (side note within the side note: I didn't read/hear anything to prompt this! just started thinking is all.) But not sure if that makes sense]...Anyway. Maybe we are supposed to forget the unpleasantness so that we will keep having babies.
okay and that's where I left off. re-reading it I see how crazy my train of thought is, oh well. So I have just been wondering if others feel the need to reproduce so soon after having a baby? haha. Is it hormonal? Do you just catch a baby bug after having one? I mean, I do have moments when Sean is screamin' his head off and schedules are altered due to having a baby, where i think...Do I really want more kids? It's not impossible, obviously many people have multiple children, even close in age, even twins, or triplets! And they manage. I'm not sure what my point is....But the thing I would like to point out is that I'm so glad I'm not in control of all this! I know that whatever/whenever/how-many-ever babies God wants us to have will happen!
Posts
You're not crazy! Pregnancy is a wonderful and amazing time and kids are such a blessing. And I hope I'm not being offensive or crude, but you kind of got a short deal on the first go round with pregnancy. I've been kind of intimidated by the stigma of having kids so close together. Most of the time people assume that little Jacob was an accident. First, I hate that terminology. Second, he wasn't we prayed for him just like we prayed for Chaselyn (well maybe not quite as long). But, I often don't correct people, because then they'll think I'm crazy. I figured I loved the pregnancy because I honestly have easy pregnancies. Because they're so easy, I feel like being pregnant is a good niche for me in a way. It's a blessing. But I so enjoy hearing that even those women like yourself who had some of the common side effects love being pregnant. I just think it speaks volumes of God's grace.
ReplyDeleteI'm honestly starting to worry a little about the whole 2 babies thing though. I think my worries come more from a stand point of going from working mom of 1 to stay at home mom of 2 all in one big leap. I'm also anxious to see how quickly I'll want to go from 2 to 3.
Anyway, to sum up, God made us the life-givers. Because of sin he said that he would increase our pain in childbirth. But he didn't say that we'll hate having kids. So, pray about the whole 2nd kid thing now since it's on your mind. God may be trying to tell you something.
And now I win for longest comment ever. HA!
ReplyDeletei'm a long commenter too! I appreciate your perspective. And I agree with the "accident" thing, nobody is an accident! Yeah, I need to pray about it.
ReplyDeleteWhat does Thomas have to say about another baby?
ReplyDeletehe says 'bring it on'...well not in those words, but he's fine with more kiddos, whenever
ReplyDeleteI'm glad to hear you say that, because I always feel crazy every time I want kids/don't want kids/wonder if I'll have kids/think I want four kids/think I want two kids/etc.
ReplyDeleteDid you enjoy pregnancy, for the most part? I love how you're able to look back on it with such a sense of joy and fondness!
you must have one great behaving baby! I mean Ellie was great, but she was very very high maintence if I'm being honest. I loved pregnancy, loved baby Ellie, but was not even thinking about more kids until she was about two years old because she gave me such a run for my money as a newborn! ha! So I guess everyone is different...but I have lots of friends who have their kids very close in age and love it!
ReplyDeleteI loved being pregnant! I can't wait to be pregnant again. I drive by the hospital and wish I was there having another! Ha! It took us quite awhile to get pregnant, so mabye that is the reason I rejoiced in every discomfort. Any time I got sick, which was rare, I praised God for the baby inside making me sick!
ReplyDeleteI think that we forget the pains of pregnancy, childbirth, breast feeding, sleeplessness, and everything else so that we do have more children. The love for them helps you forget that too.
Pray about having another, and maybe Sean will be a big bro soon enough!
Yall are wonderful, I love hearing your opinions because I respect all of you.
ReplyDeleteKelly - I did enjoy my pregnancy for the most part. But to be honest when I think pregnancy I think sick/nausea/hugging toilet. I was sick up till about 5 months. But it is different for everyone and maybe my next pregnancy, God willing, won't be so nauseating. Since I did have a shorter pregnancy I think what I might have missed out on is the swelling and uber discomfort. Although I did beef up there in the end. =)